The most common place pastors hear one of these three sentences is right before they preach or right after they preach. Of course, the prayerful focus on their message is detoured and distracted immediately.
Frankly, I don't see how most pastors make it to their sermons when they have been blasted by one of these bombs right before they preach. While three sentences are certainly not an exhaustive list, these are the three I hear most often.
To this day, I cringe when pastors tell me they have been hit yet again with one of these three sentences:
- "People are saying ... " This one is the coward's specialties. Rather than speak for themselves, the critic hides behind the deceitful anonymity of other people. If you challenge the verbal sniper with the identity of the "people," he or she typically responds smugly that they cannot say. They are not at liberty to reveal the identities of the dissidents. Anonymous criticism is not valid criticism. It should be dismissed along with the messenger.
- "I love you, but ... " The only thing the critic wants the pastor to hear is the verbiage after "but." The only thing the pastor hears is the verbiage after "but." The critic tries to couch his or her concerns from a posture of love and concern. Bologna! This sentence is similar to the secular phrase from one person dating to the other: "I want to be friends." There is no love in the statement to the pastor. There is no desire for friendship in the statement to the person in the dating relationship.
- "I'm just not getting fed here." This infamous sentence has multiple possible translations. "You aren't preaching the way I want you to preach." "Your sermons are too long." "You don't preach from the book of Revelation enough." "The podcast pastor is so much better." "The church down the road is cooler." Sometimes, the sentence is just a cover because the church member has a consumer mentality, and he or she has not received her preferences or has not gotten preferential treatment.
Most church members are good church members. Most church members really love their pastors. The few exceptions, though, are incredibly painful exceptions for pastors. Please prayerfully protect pastors from these verbal bombs, particularly right before they preach.
You will be demonstrating true love for your pastor when you do. 
Thom S. Rainer is the founder and CEO of Church Answers, an online community and resource for church leaders. Prior to founding Church Answers, Rainer served as president and CEO of LifeWay Christian Resources. Before coming to LifeWay, he served at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary for 12 years, where he was the founding dean of the Billy Graham School of Missions and Evangelism.
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