Leverage your retaliation with this plan.
Leverage your retaliation with this plan. (Shutterstock/Sergey Nivens)

What is your knee-jerk reaction when someone insults you?

Retaliation is a dangerous weapon. But the type of retaliation that becomes a Godly lever is revealed by Peter:

"Don't repay evil for evil. Don't retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing." (1 Peter 3:9 NLT)

When we answer an insult, we lose energy. Most of us are running low on energy so we don't have much to waste. I suppose it makes us feel better if we can deliver a sharp retort. But do we ever feel better when that happens?

Peter offers inspired advice. "Don't retaliate with insults. Instead, pay them back with a blessing."

Focus on something good about the person and speak it. Offer a compliment.

Dust your shoes, move on and guard your heart.

The verse ends with a powerful punch.

God called us to bless others, even those who treat us poorly. The reward for a blessing is blessings from Him.

Less retaliation, more blessing.

Dr. Steve Greene is the publisher and executive vice president of the media group at Charisma Media and executive producer of the Charisma Podcast Network. His book, Love Leads: The Spiritual Connection Between Your Relationships and Productivity, is now available.

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