I have the opportunity to be in many churches. In that regard, I am observer of people.
When I enter a worship service, I do a quick scan of those attending. And almost every time I look to the congregation, I notice one clear reality: The majority in attendance are women.
It is for that reason that volumes have been written the past couple of decades about getting more men to attend church. In this brief article, however, I want to look from a different perspective. I want to understand the motivations for women who leave the church. My process was simple; I quickly reviewed thousands of comments on my blog. Many times, I read a comment where a woman told me she had given up on a church.
Here are the six most common themes:
1. Overworked. "I had trouble saying no when I was asked to do something in the church. The leaders piled so much on me that the only way I could get relief was to leave the church."
2. Not valued. "I really don't think the leaders in our church value women. Our roles and opportunities are very limited. I am frustrated. I hope I can find a church where my gifts are appreciated."
3. Relationally hurt. "There was a group of ladies in our church that did everything together. When I tried to join them, they paid me no attention. I don't want to be in a church of cliques."
4. Lack of quality childcare. "The preaching was great and the people were friendly, but the childcare was a mess. It was both unclean and unsafe. I'm not taking my child there."
5. Busyness. "I work full-time. I have four kids at home. I have so many responsibilities. It's tough to give even more of my time to the church."
6. Husband does not attend. "It's tough coming to church without my husband. I am totally responsible to get our three kids to church. And I really feel out of place because the church has groups for married adults and single adults. I don't know where I fit."
Church leaders: See these comments as opportunities for ministry rather than problems that can't be solved.
How would you address these concerns? What is your church doing now? What more would you like your church to do?
Thom S. Rainer is the president of LifeWay Christian Resources. For the original article, visit thomrainer.com.
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