Laura Ortberg Turner, daughter of John and Nancy Ortberg, has some great thoughts on what it means to be (but not really be) known as a “pastor’s kid.” One takeaway is the framework she felt her parents placed her and her siblings into. Turner writes:
“Had we not gotten freedom from our parents to be the people we were—to grow and learn for ourselves and even occasionally embarrass our parents, as good children do (a famed family incident at a church in Southern California that involves my then-5-year-old brother lying on his back, thrusting his pelvis to a children’s worship song called ‘Jumping Bean,’ comes to mind)—we would likely have ended up feeling like our only two possibilities in life were becoming the mantle-bearer or the rebel.”
I’ve spent a lot of energy making sure people know the first names of my family members aren’t “The Pastor’s Wife” or “The Pastor’s Kids.” So much of that can be overturned by a well-meaning youth leader who isn’t conscious about unconscious behavior.
Consider how we help or hinder this in youth group circles:
The list of negatives can go on, so let’s brainstorm some positives:
(Maybe we should apply each of these to every other kid in the youth group too.)
Got any more tips? Share yours below.
Tony Myles is a youth ministry veteran, author, speaker, volunteer youth worker and the lead pastor of Connection Church in Medina, Ohio ... and he really likes smoothies.
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