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The church can response to a pastor's affair biblically, redemptively, and compassionately. (Flickr )

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It happens too frequently. It can be the lead pastor or any church staff member.

And too many churches do not handle such tragedy well.

But many churches do. Allow me to share some of the best responses I have heard from churches that have gone through this tragic time.

1. Terminate with compassion. Almost without exception, the pastor is terminated. But termination does not have to be without compassion. The pastor's family will need financial provisions, so many churches provide compassionate severances. And though pastors have full responsibility for their sins, they are hurting as well. Tough and compassionate love are in order here.

2. Don't forget the pastor's family. They have felt the greatest amount of betrayal. They are humiliated and hurt. This person they likely held in high esteem has fallen hard. The family needs compassion, love, attention and counseling. Many church members do not know what to say, so they say nothing. I know one church member who sent the spouse and the children a simple handwritten note: "I have not forgotten you. I am here for you. I am praying for you." It made all the difference in the world.

3. Be forthright with the congregation. The rumors are often worse than reality. You don't have to give the sordid details. But the church needs to know the pastor was terminated because of moral failure. Speak to the congregation succinctly, honestly and compassionately.

4. Provide resources for reconciliation. God's ideal plan is for the couple to stay together—to make it through this terrible ordeal. The church can be an instrument of that process back to reconciliation. The church can provide the resources so that the couple can get strong Christian counseling. The process should also be one that seeks restoration for the pastor. That restoration may not mean that pastors are restored to their former office; it does mean the path should include a way to be restored to the congregation.

5. Don't forget the pain of the congregation. Many of them feel betrayed. Most of them feel hurt. Find ways to minister to the members for the next several months as they deal with this issue.

6. Begin a ministry of prayer for this situation. I have been so encouraged to see some churches actually deal with this issue through a specific prayer ministry. One church offered a prayer and reconciliation time after every service. It only lasted a few minutes, and attendance was totally voluntary. But the responses were incredible, both in numbers attending and in the way people were impacted. The church began this ministry with a stated goal of continuing it for three months. It made a huge difference in the healing impact on the church.

When the pastor has an affair, it is a tragedy of huge proportions. But the church can respond biblically, redemptively and compassionately.

It the midst of this awful situation, the church has the opportunity to be the true body of Christ.

Thom S. Rainer is the president of LifeWay Christian Resources. For the original article, visit thomrainer.com.

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