What some aging Christians need from the younger generation is an invitation to lean into the local churchâ€”not to retreat or retire.
But others from the older generation need a different challengeâ€”a summons to lay aside suspicion of everyone young enough to be their child, a charge to dispose of a derogatory view of the real-life specimen of the next generation. And, in particular, some older leaders need to hear a plea not to get off the bus but to aggressively make room for young leaders at the front.
Do Not Despise the Young
It was a two-part charge the aging apostle gave to his younger-generation protĂ©gĂ© in 1 Timothy 4:12: â€śLet no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purityâ€ť (ESV). One part goes to the millennials (born 1980â€“2000), along with Gen X (1965â€“1979): By exhibiting model Christian posture in word and deed, give the older generation no good cause for despising your youth.
But the second part is for the baby boomers (born 1946â€“1964) and those before them, who overhear the directive like the Ephesian church reading Paulâ€™s letter over Timothyâ€™s shoulder: By exuding a model Christian disposition toward brothers and sisters in Christ, give the younger generation the benefit of the doubt. Donâ€™t expect the worst of fellow believers, regardless of their age. Let the gospel go to work on your subtle age-prejudice.
Create Space for New Leadership
Larry Osborne is one pastor and author pioneering the way forward on the massive leadership transition that is just underway between the baby boomers and their millennial progeny. Whether in business, government or the church, many are already feeling the tension, as what was Americaâ€™s largest generation now awkwardly gives way to its more numerous offspring.
Osborne makes the observation that on the high school and college campus, it seems â€śthe freshmen always get smaller.â€ť As we age, each yearâ€™s crop of incoming students seems less impressive than the class before. If thatâ€™s true of just four years on campus, what about the long arc of adult life?
In the church, says Osborne, â€śThe seniors never graduate (at least not until theyâ€™ve become literal seniors and start dying off). They hog the leadership table, shutting out the next generation. Itâ€™s one of the main reasons that most churches stop growing and lose their evangelistic touch (and cultural relevance) around the 20-year mark.â€ť
Let Young Eagles Fly
The Christian vision for leadership is not a tenure model, in which whoeverâ€™s been around longest occupies the seats of privilege and prominence as long as they want. Rather, itâ€™s about laboring proactively and assertively to raise up younger leaders to fill our slots and do our jobs better than we didâ€”which gets at the Great Commission essence of making disciples (Matt. 28:19) and applies it to church leadership.
But such a vision of leadership is costly. Thereâ€™s a price to pay, says Osborne:
â€śLeadership is a zero-sum game. One personâ€™s emerging influence is always another personâ€™s waning influence. Thatâ€™s why making room for the young eagles is a hard sell, especially to those who already have a seat at the table.â€ť
Such a deferential and self-humbling dream for raising up new leaders may seem far-fetched in government and business, but shouldnâ€™t it have its best chance in the church, where we follow One who came not to be served but to serve (Mark 10:45)? Do we not believe that true greatness is in service, not in lording it over and exercising authority (Mark 10:42)? We aim â€śin humility [to] count others more significantâ€ť and â€ślook not only to [our] own interests, but also to the interests of othersâ€ť (Phil. 2:3, 4).
But are we not, then, compromising wisdom in church leadership by replacing some qualified members of the older generation with those from the younger?
Let the Young Speak
A generation ago, on Sunday morning, Aug. 29, 1982â€”with the first of the millennials still in diapersâ€”36-year-old baby boomer John Piper took up Job 32:7â€“11 and preached on the young man Elihu. The sermon title was â€śLet the Young Speak.â€ť That night, the church would be ordaining 27-year-old Tom Steller, and Piper wanted to prepare his congregation of gray heads for laying hands on such a spring chicken. The key verses were Job 32:8â€“9: â€śIt is the spirit in man, the breath of the Almighty, that makes him understand. It is not the old who are wise, nor the aged who understand what is right.â€ť
Said Piper, â€śThe lesson Elihu teaches us here is that it is not age that brings wisdom but the Spirit of God. There is no necessary correlation between gray hair and good theology. There is no necessary connection between a wizened face and a wise heart. ...
"Of course, there is, then, no necessary connection between youth and wisdom, either. What Elihu has done is remove age as the dominant consideration in deciding who is wise and understanding. He teaches us that there may be folly in the old and folly in the young; wisdom in the young and wisdom in the old. When we search for a source of wisdom, we do not end our search with the question, 'How old is he?' We end it with the question, 'Who has the Spirit of wisdom and understanding?'â€ť
Make Room at the Table
So alongside the plea to the older generation to not abandon the younger for â€śretirementâ€ť is also this request: Donâ€™t frown on us young adults and think weâ€™re fools because weâ€™re young. In Christ, and by His Spirit, be on the lookout for the best, and let us have a chance to show you that not all of us are as bad as you might expect.
And for the advance of the gospel and the good of the church tomorrow and today, donâ€™t keep us locked out of leadership. Take the extra initiative to make room at the table for multiple younger voices, and please put in the energy to really hear us out. Before long, the younger generation will be driving the ship. Better to begin handing over the wheel sooner than later and make the transition a tribute to the age-defying wisdom of God.
David Mathis (@davidcmathis) is executive editor at desiringGod.org and an elder at Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minn. He has edited several books, including Thinking Loving Doing, Finish the Mission, and Acting the Miracle, and is co-author of How to Stay Christian in Seminary. Click here for more from David Mathis, or visit David at www.desiringgod.org/blog/authors/david-mathis.
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