7 Ways to Know It's Time to Move On

Have any of these seven factors prompted you to leave a church?
Have any of these seven factors prompted you to leave a church? (iStock photo)

I am reticent to write this article. I do not want to encourage pastors to leave churches too early.

Frankly, many pastors have shared with me that, in the aftermath of their departures, they realized they had made a mistake. They left too soon.

Many times the departure takes place between years two and four of a pastor's tenure. That is the typical period when the "honeymoon" is over and some level of conflict, even crises, have begun. Many pastors who made it to years five and beyond express thanksgiving that they did not depart in those more difficult early years.

I confess that I left a church too soon. My family's income was below the poverty line, and I was too proud to express my financial needs to any trusted church leader. The church's income had tripled in my three-year tenure, so I could have easily been paid more. And I have little doubt that some of the leaders in the church would have gladly helped. My stupid and sinful pride got in the way.

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So I have asked over 30 pastors why they left their previous church. Obviously, my survey is both informal and small. Still, the responses were both fascinating and telling. Here are the top seven responses in order of frequency, and they are not always mutually exclusive:

1. "I had a strong sense of call to another church." This response was articulated in a number of different ways, but the essence was the same. Slightly over half of the respondents left because of the "pull" rather than the "push."

2. "I became weary and distracted with all the conflict and criticisms." What leader has not been here? What pastor has not been here? It is often a death by a thousand cuts.

3. "I no longer felt like I was a good match for the church." One pastor shared candidly that he felt like the church outgrew him. He said he had the skill set to serve a church with an attendance of 150. But when it grew to 500 after eight years, he felt that his leadership skills were not adequate to take the church any further.

4. "I left because of family needs." One pastor moved closer to his aging parents who had no one to care for them. Another indicated his family was miserable in their former church location.

5. "I was fired or forced out." This story is far too common. Of course, some of the other factors in this list overlap with this one.

6. "I was called to a different type of ministry." Some left to take a position other than lead pastor in another church. Others went into parachurch or denominational ministry. I am among those who left the pastorate for denominational work.

7. "I was not paid adequately." I related my own story above. Let me be clear. The pastors with whom I spoke were not seeking extravagant pay, just adequate pay. And like me, most of them were uncomfortable broaching the issue with any leaders in the church.

What do you think of these seven factors? What would you add? What have been your experiences?

Thom Rainer is the president and CEO of LifeWay Christian Resources. For the original article, visit thomrainer.com.

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