When I turned 50, my staff surprised me with a set of golf clubs. After numerous golfing trips "plow-ing up the course," I resorted to watching videos. My game immediately improved when I learned how to deliver the perfect swing from pros. Hours of written "tips" could not compare to watching master golfers at work.
I heard a funny story about a Bible college professor who would sling his thick hair backward with a swoop when-ever he made a strong point in his preaching.
Ironically, years later his students were also "slinging their hair." Someone discovered that even a student who was bald was slinging his head!
What makes people do what they see and not what they hear?
While traveling through Greece and Turkey for 17 days in 2009, I was struck by Paul's apostolic method of "father-ing." He had no Bible school (not even Bibles!), sermon series or buildings.
His method was to take about 18 young men from different backgrounds in the New Testament to be his traveling companions. His Christ-like example modeled his Christian life before them until they were his "dear sons," and then sent them as his envoys to plant, build and correct his churches.
The apostle Paul makes his intentions known in 2 Thessalonians 3:9, "We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to make ourselves a model for you to follow" (NIV). The model consisted of 10 parts, and focused on integrity, purity and example.
Integrity comes from the root word "integer" and means whole number. It is something that is whole with no parts missing or fractions. Integrity, then, is to be a whole, together, healthy person. In my interaction with spiritual leaders, I have seen the need for integrity in several major areas of ministry:
Finances-Surprised by this one? Don't be. Jesus used money more than any other metaphor to demonstrate faith-fulness. When money reaches our hands, we quickly demonstrate our true character just as Ananias and Sapphira, Judas, Gehazi and Achan did in the Bible. Here are a few principles to help lay out some "boundaries" for financial integrity:
Commitments—Simply put, keep your promises. My grandfather could borrow money in the 1930s on a handshake because men back then valued their word more than anything else. We must be "men of our word," keeping our com-mitments both locally and internationally.
Announcements—What you say from the pulpit should be "the law of the Medes and Persians." If you constantly alter your word given to the congregation, congregants develop internal questioning about every new piece of direction.
Travel engagements—Frivolous cancelations and no-shows can be devastating to others. There was a pastor in Ni-geria who took 15 different buses to cross Africa to attend a conference in Kenya. When he walked up to the venue, a sign on the door said, "Canceled." It was easy for the American evangelist, but the Nigerian leader wasted one month of his time.
Honesty—Be 100 percent truthful, not 99 percent. Every detail of facts, stories and testimonies must line up with a "court of law" testimony. No wonder they make you swear to tell the "truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth"! Humans have found so many ways to stretch the truth, leave out part of the truth and mix the truth.
Exaggeration is unnecessary. Do we think we have to promote, embellish and market God's image?
Spinning the truth (covering the raw reality of an action) leads the congregation to treat every explanation with sus-picion. Get over it and tell them the truth. The embarrassment will be momentary but the recovery will be permanent.
Purity Is Possible
Moral purity, which means to be faithful to a spouse for a lifetime, has become almost unusual in political, athletic, entertainment and now ministerial arenas. Almost weekly, there is a new revelation of an escapade involving a female or male leader.
Satan has used immorality more than any other vice to destroy the integrity and reputation of the Spirit-filled move-ment, beginning in the late 1980s.
It's an all-out war. The days of feeling that any of us are bullet proof are over. Internet pornography and texting have brought the average leader into the arena of moral temptation as never before.
Samson's parents warned him not to touch the grape, touch the dead and not to cut his hair. It's interesting that he killed a lion in a vineyard. But what was he doing there? He took honey from the carcass or dead body of a lion. It therefore became easy to violate the third and last command when he lay his head in Delilah's lap and she cut his hair.
The point: Simple violations of spiritual protocol lead to deadly results. To avoid moral failure, consider James Dob-son's five stages of adultery and stop before you find yourself engaged in the following:
A look: This was David's initial problem. It's a "connected stare" into the eyes of someone to whom you are not married.
A touch: Physical contact, no matter how slight, can lead to a physical relationship
An embrace: Now the relationship is moving rapidly.
A kiss: This is the fuse that lights immorality.
The act: You commit the ultimate act of unfaithfulness.
Put an Internet filter, such as Integrity Online on your computer, phone and every source of online material. Internet porn marketers sit around all day figuring out how to ensnare you with the latest technology. Your filter must be bullet proof and the password known only to your wife or IT Director. Follow these guidelines to defend yourself against sexual immorality:
Be the Example
The third part of the model is your example. There are leadership habits you can demonstrate and others will emu-late and follow. Paul called them "my ways." Here are a few I have tried to demonstrate through the years:
1. Order—God is not the author of confusion. He transformed the multitude into a military at Mt. Sinai. Here are a few things you can check to keep your surroundings in shape:
2. Courtesy—Believe it or not, the community knows your private side, so watch your example in everyday areas of life such as the checkout line. Those who you are trying to influence note belligerence to a clerk or impatience. Take your time and wait it out.
We would all love to abandon our buggy in Walmart parking lots, but putting it where it belongs is an example to watching eyes. And preaching like an "angel out of heaven" in church then driving like a "bat out of hell" to get home is also observed by your neighbors.
3. Family—Paul spoke of the example family as the main criteria for ministry. This, of course, involves your chil-dren's behavior. In church, after church, in restaurants and at school, everyone is watching your children. They will never be perfect, but they should be accountable and corrected. I know a pastor who has 10 sons and they all behave well at restaurants. That should make you feel better!
And honoring you wife is vital. It not only validates your witness, but it also gets your prayers answered. Walk with her, not in front of her, waving to the adoring masses! Open the exit door and even car door for her. You need to real-ize that at least half (and maybe two-thirds) of your church is female, and they notice your interest and concern for your wife's place in the congregation. Your sons, by the way, will treat their wives the way they observe you treating yours.
These are just a few areas of the model. No wonder the apostle Paul could influence his entire generation, billions down through the ages and millions today with his simple lifestyle.
You may not be pastoring thousands, but if your life is a model for others, your stock is rising! Paul told Timothy, "Be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity" (1 Tim. 4: 12). And John Max-well says, "Be as big a man on the inside as you are on the outside."
Let's rebuild ministry in the United States to once again be as respectable as Billy Graham and his Modesto Mani-festo. A generation is watching, and this is your moment.
Larry Stockstill is the senior pastor of Bethany Prayer Center in Baton Rouge, La., and the author of The Remnant.
Why God’s order for world evangelism prioritizes sharing the gospel with Jewish people First
When I think about the impact of the church’s ministry around the world—how believers are joining arms to share the love and gospel of Jesus Christ with others—I’m thankful that the call on the church is so much greater than the challenge. Our God-given commission to help the nations can often feel daunting and sometimes even overwhelming.
That’s because we’re trying to reach people with the message of God’s love while they’re hungry, hurt and oppressed. It’s not enough to simply talk to them. In many countries, people are just trying to survive without the basic necessities of life.
Prior to Billy Hornsby's death, friends and leaders from across the nation paid tribute to ARC's inspirational co-founder, president and spiritual father. We've gathered some of those tributes here to honor Billy and give you a sense of what a true spiritual general he was.
When I asked Billy Hornsby to serve as guest editor for the March/April issue of Ministry Today and share the amazing story of the Association of Related Churches (ARC), we had no idea he’d be battling for his life. I knew Billy was dealing with cancer, but he’d made it sound as if it wasn’t too bad. Sadly, since the time the articles were assigned and turned in to us, the cancer became so aggressive it affected his everyday functioning.
In February the ARC’s senior leaders recognized this and gathered in Birmingham, Ala., to pay tribute to Billy’s leadership and to bid him farewell. Rick Bezet, who was featured on the cover of Ministry Today last summer, was one of those. He told me that Billy not only taught them how to live, but also showed them how to die: “He’s shown us how enormous the peace of God is when facing death. I’ve never seen anyone so ‘on’—so totally connected to the voice of God.”
I was honored to visit Billy at his home in Birmingham, Ala., during his last days. Billy was the sort of man you felt was one of your best friends even if you hadn't known him long. I published one of his books a few years back but didn’t get to know him well until a year ago. He told me he approached every relationship as if he would be a friend for life. He certainly treated me that way, and every time I was with Billy—whether in person or on the phone—I came away feeling better.
Billy’s heart for church planting and his vision made the ARC take off. He challenged Greg Surratt on a golf course to create a model of churches that would emphasize life, draw others and grow. Surratt agreed to help him, and the first two churches they planted were New Life Church in Conway, Ark., and Church of the Highlands in Birmingham. Within a decade each had been recognized as the fastest-growing congregation in the country.
The day after Christmas Billy taught on “Struggling Well,” giving hope and encouragement to others. A few weeks later he gathered the ARC leaders and told them to keep their relationships strong and to continue the work he started. One by one they embraced him and thanked him for believing in them. Billy described this period to me as “the best two weeks of my life.”
Billy's gift of establishing strong relationships and peer accountability is badly needed in the church. He raised up good leaders and undoubtedly the ARC will continue to grow and prosper. Part of that is because Billy always believed in people. In fact, Rick Bezet told me that one of Billy’s parting words to the ARC leaders was, “Make sure you believe in someone no one believes in.”
As we pay tribute to a general in the church-planting movement, I'm sad for our loss, yet I celebrate the legacy Billy left behind that's found in the countless people he believed in to do great things for God.
Founder/Publisher, Charisma and Ministry Today
My name is Scott Hornsby, and I’m Billy Hornsby’s brother. Billy and I are 14 months apart and have shared one of the most remarkable friendships you can have—not just as family, but also for almost 40 years as brothers in the Lord and more than 30 years as fellow ministers.
Any ministry relationship is vital, but to walk through our callings together has been so special. We’ve had each other’s support through the good and difficult times of our lives. I always knew I had someone in my corner and because of that, when I was down, I felt like getting up again.
Billy’s life has always been an inspiration to me because I saw in his life a burden to help the underdog. When no one else would believe in a person with limited abilities, Billy saw a spark of greatness in that person and helped ignite that spark into a blazing fire.
I believe one of the greatest compliments you can give someone you grew up with is respect. I’ve seen my brother Billy used by God as a great husband, father, brother, church planter, pastor, missionary, songwriter, author and president of one of the greatest church- planting organizations in the world. He ordained me, he’s one of my presbyters and he is my best friend. Billy has inspired me to be better, reach higher, love unconditionally, give more and never give up.
To the best brother a man could have! Thanks, Billy.
Senior Pastor, Fellowship Church
Billy Hornsby is someone God brought into my life at just the right time to encourage me to be and achieve something I thought I couldn’t do on my own.
About 10 years ago I had a dream to plant 2,000 churches in my lifetime. I had been a part of planting four churches, including the one I’m still in, Seacoast Church. And of the other three churches, two of them failed miserably. At about that time God brought this bigger-than-life, bald-headed Cajun into my life, named Billy Hornsby, and it changed my life forever.
I’ve learned from Billy the value of a friend. I’ve always longed for the type of friendship I’ve read about in the Bible—David and Jonathan, Ruth and Naomi, Paul and Timothy. Billy has been that kind of friend to me. He looked me in the eye over and over again and told me he loved me. It was uncomfortable for me at first, but Billy pressed in, and I desperately needed that. He even made me an honorary Cajun!
His Billyisms on relationships stick with you; like, the four words that diffuse anger in any relationship: “You might be right.” There are others: “Let your subordinates shine”; “When you back someone into a corner let them out”; “Add value to every person you have responsibility for or a relationship with”; and “Don’t ask a fat person if they’ve lost weight, because they haven’t!”
I’ve also learned from Billy the value of having our treasure in heaven. I heard Billy say many times when he was thinking about life decisions or trying to convince the ARC board why we should believe in a church planter who was struggling somewhere: “Why would we leave all we know for something that we’re unsure of? Because we live our lives these days for treasures in heaven.”
I saw Billy live that. I often think I need to get a bracelet that says WWBD—What Would Billy Do?—because I want to be like him. I’m proud to say, more than anything else, that Billy Hornsby is my friend.
Lead Pastor, Seacoast Church
Mount Pleasant, S.C.
It has been a blessing to have some truly great men impact my life. But when I met Billy Hornsby about 11 years ago, he brought a whole new dimension of mentoring to the table.
He is for me a big brother who has lived so much already. He has lived out just about every type of relationship scenario one can live, and as a result he has a deep well of wisdom when it comes to being a peacemaker—navigating and diffusing relationship challenges.
He truly is a peacemaker. I’m thankful he took the time to invest in me to teach me from those strengths he was so rich with.
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matt. 5:9).
Lead Pastor, Healing Place Church
Baton Rouge, La.
Billy has always been a strong man, physically and spiritually. When he came on staff at the church where I worked, all of the younger pastors wanted to be near him because of his enthusiasm and commitment to Christ. His house was always the favorite destination, for many reasons. We loved the fact that if he were to see a fault in any of us, he would confront it head-on and tell us that any unresolved problem in our lives would inevitably affect our ministry.
Lately, as members of the ARC have gathered around him, he has continued to challenge all of us to remain unified and clean. There has not been even a hint of division between the members, and he keeps telling us that humility will keep it that way. Most importantly, he said: “Always believe in the person nobody else believes in. Even if it takes breaking your own rules, then believe in them anyway.”
It is because of Billy’s values and strength that we have been able to accomplish what we have done. And that is why so many people love him.
“Love ... bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Cor. 13:6-7).
Lead Pastor, New Life Church
In February of 2003, I had my first experience with Billy Hornsby and it vastly changed the trajectory of my life and ministry forever. Up until then I had been a struggling church planter who had felt pushed out of the current circle of relationships I had been raised in.
Billy Hornsby saw potential in me and believed in the dream that God had placed inside of our hearts for Fort Myers, Fla. After Billy came and spent a weekend encouraging our leadership team, I’ll never forget saying to them, “I really think he believes in us!” From that day forward, everything changed for Next Level Church. We finally knew we weren’t alone, and there’s no better feeling than that.
Billy Hornsby believed in me when we weren’t sure anyone else did. I know my story is multiplied hundreds of times over in other pastors and leaders in the body of Christ today as well.
Thank you, Billy Hornsby, for seeing what I was having a hard time seeing in myself.
Lead Pastor, Next Level Church
Fort Myers, Fla.
When I think of Pastor Billy, I think of someone who is dedicated to the call of God on his life, both in season and out of season. I see a man who is dedicated to his ministry, dedicated to his family and dedicated to life.
Pastor Billy, thank you for being my pastor, my mentor and my friend. Thank you for allowing me in your home, to witness firsthand the extent of your commitment to Mrs. Charlene as she battled her own illness, to watch you tend to her needs, considering your own battle was amazing and somewhat divine. Thank you for taking the time to see something in us and picking up this flicker and breathing on it until we became a flame. You are my David, my Joshua, my Moses, my Paul! Truly you are one of God’s generals.
Lead Pastor, Life in the Spirit Church
Of all the people I’ve been impacted by, no one has meant more than Billy Hornsby. It was 2002 in Memphis, Tenn., where Billy shared with us the principles of the ARC. And from that day forward, our church has not stopped growing. To Billy Hornsby: Thank you. To your life, to your heart, to your spirit, I’m forever indebted to you.
Senior Pastor, Celebration Church
I’m so thankful for the impact that Billy Hornsby has had on my life. His vision to make a difference in this world and his incredible leadership gift have helped so many of us live, think and lead at a higher level. In watching Billy live his life, I’ve seen an amazing example of what it means to lead people. His genuine love for people and passion for family are hallmarks of Billy’s life. There’s simply no way to measure the number of lives that have been impacted through Billy’s Hornsby’s life and ministry.
Billy, thank you for your passion, your encouragement and your commitment to living a life of integrity. All of these qualities and so many more have touched my life in a deep way. You have paved the way for so many people, and our lives are better, richer and stronger because of you.
Lead Pastor, The Life Church
I have known Billy Hornsby for 20 years, and it has been an honor and a privilege. He’s been an incredible influence in my life and ministry. One of the attributes I admire most about Billy is that he’s not afraid to tell you the 10 percent—that small portion of hard truth that can change your life, if you’re willing to listen.
Even with his tough exterior, you quickly learn that he’s one of your biggest fans. He has a keen ability to help you see great things in you. He’s walked with me through two of my most challenging moments: the deaths of my child and my mother. Likewise, he’s celebrated some of my life’s greatest victories, one being the planting of Keypoint Church six years ago. His influence gave me courage to take such a giant leap of faith. If I’ve done anything noteworthy, it’s because I’m standing on the shoulders of great men like Billy Hornsby.
Lead Pastor, Keypoint Church
Sheryll and I were in our car on the way to a beach break, listening to a CD someone gave us. We were several months into our third church plant and were soaking up anything we could find that would help us be better pastors and leaders. As we listened to the simple thoughts being presented on the CD, we both came to the same conclusion at the same time: We needed this man in our life.
A few weeks later we walked up to Billy Hornsby at an ARC roundtable in Birmingham, Ala., and told him, “We need you to be our friend.” The following Sunday he was in our church sharing his simple thoughts about doing church.
Billy means it when he says he is your friend. The day he said that to us, our lives changed. Our church is stronger and we are better pastors because of that friendship. There is a rare group of people you meet along the way in your journey who just make you better because they are around. The body of Christ is stronger, safer and more secure because Billy and Charlene Hornsby are part of it.
Tony and Sheryll Ashmore
Pastors, LifeGate Church
Villa Rica, Ga.
How to attract people who are ready to receive God’s Word
Is it possible to improve the environment of your church so that the seed of God’s Word has a better chance of growing? There is a movement of churches that believe so, and because of their ability to attract large numbers of people to their places of worship, these churches have been described as attractional. But is there biblical grounds for this model of ministry?
In the parable of the sower and the seed in Matthew 13:1-23, Jesus presents the results of seeds sown in different environments—different types of soil. Some soil was not conducive to growth, and the seed was either stolen away, produced little fruit or didn’t grow at all. In other words, the Word could not produce fruit in the wrong environment. It sounds close to heresy to say that God’s Word needs the right environment to be effective, but according to the parable, this is the case.
Going beyond style to substance to empower the next generation in your church
Our church is overwhelmed with young converts. In fact, of the thousands that come to our services each week, more than 70 percent are younger than 29. And about 40 percent of them didn’t attend a church before they came to Substance Church. Pastors often ask me, “What are you doing to get all of these young people?” Honestly, that’s a critical question that the American church had better start asking soon.
Contrary to the exaggerated claims of attendance, as David Olson noted in The American Church in Crisis, only 9.1 percent of Americans attend any evangelical or charismatic church on a weekly basis. Even scarier is the fact that the vast majority of this number are quickly becoming senior citizens. In other words, there is a generation of young people who have totally given up on the church as we know it.